My ex said he would change. He said he would give anything to kiss me again. He would rather be with me than his current girlfriend. He said he wants to marry me. (I'm the girl who asked about her ex and how he got a girl pregnant)
Anonymous
Dear, if you want to try it again with him, and you think that will make you happy, don’t hesitate.
I just don’t want you to expect things to be the same as they were. Please be cautious about putting your heart on the line, because people don’t always mean what they say.
I’d love to hear about how things go if you do get back with him, and Midnight Advice will always be here for you in the future.
Help! My ex is still in love with me after 11 months of being broken up (he counted not me). I thought I was over him, but talking to him now makes me rethink breaking up with him. He says he loves me and misses me and stuff, but my problem is what he did. After we broke up he got with this other girl and got her pregnant (they had it aborted). I know he did it because I broke his heart. I just don't know what to do. Do I wait for another guy or take him back? (fam would hate if i took him bk)
Anonymous
He doesn’t sound like a bad guy, but you two can never be a perfect couple again. You’re never going to forget that he got another girl pregnant, and he’s never going to forget that you broke up with him. You two can get back together sure, and you’ll feel happy, but you will also feel hollow, because that shadow is always going to be there. What you two have are feelings about something that happened in the past, and their potential to be translated into something good in the future is doubtful.
I posted before, but had to delete my old blog. I'm the girl who's boyfriend over exaggerated her cutting and him not getting any to some girl on Facebook. I was just wondering what advice you could give..? I've still said nothing. I've ate nothing either. I just want to die...I posted inks to screenshots of the conversation, post/17779281442/this-was-what-i-read-on-valentines-day. I just need help... Thanks.
It’s a really difficult situation, I know. Your boyfriend has shown that he can’t adapt to your personal problems. By complaining behind your back, he showed that he doesn’t really have sympathy for your condition, and he’s not willing to be understanding. He’s not good enough for you! He’s not the supportive, caring partner that you need. You deserve better! Let this guy go and find someone kind and honest. I promise, there are good guys out there, if you look.
I also wanted to tell you that you need to eat, and you need to stop cutting, but I know you already know that. I know it’s a knot I can’t untangle. But I want you to to try to stop behaving self-destructively. It doesn’t happen in a day, but try to make it your goal. I promise that the world will seem like a brighter, better place if you learn to treat yourself better.
Can you give me advice on the situation I posted?
Sure… I can’t offer you any miracles or any instant cure for your broken heart, because these things heal slowly. He isn’t yours anymore. As much as it hurts, that time in your lives is over. Dont blame yourself; it wasn’t meant to be. It will be hard at first to push away the thoughts of him as they start to invade your mind, but with time the tears will dry and the pain will fade and you’ll start to feel like you again. As long as you focus on getting over him and avoiding any further contact with him, the day when you are out of his shadow forever will come nearer. Don’t decieve yourself: it’s always cold when you’re standing in someone’s shadow.
I hope you’re having a good evening
But if there’s anything bothering you, don’t hesitate to put it in my ask, anonymous or not. I want to help as many people as I can think through their problems.
I want you to know you’re not alone.
i dated my girlfriend for over a year, distance mostly. I lied, that's what i was guilty of. I was always faithful always her's. We had breaks. She would sex with other guys on our breaks. I waited for her. We broke up for good in November. She recently emailed me saying she wished me well, a while later she said she needed me to vent to her. She said she loved me. She asked if i wanted a date. But she's in a relationships. She ignores me easily when she wants. Tell me does she actually like me.
Anonymous
Does she really miss you? Or does she miss having control over you? It’s time for you to stand up for yourself, because if this girl really cared, she would never have done those things that hurt you! Whether or not she truly likes you is irrelevant; in the long run, being with her will never bring you true happiness. You’re always going to be wondering when it’s going to happen again. Be the strong one here and stand up for yourself, no matter how much you want to give in. At the end, you will come out with new strength that is going to last you your entire life, as you search for a girl who is truly honest and faithful to you.
ok well, you follow me and reciently i posted a story telling about how I love this dude, and he loves me, but we have to break up and it KILLS me. What so you sudjest I do? He's very sensative, and I dont' wanna hurt him, but at the same time, I don't want him to take my breakup as a joke!
Anonymous
What I understand from your story, dearie, is that you can’t be with this young man because of your age? Your parents don’t approve?
I understand your problem is that you care about the him and don’t want to hurt him, yet you want him to take you seriously when you say it has to end. According to your story, it looks like you want him to come back to you too after it’s all over.
What you have to ask yourself is: Do I believe that he loves me? And if the answer is yes, then you need to show him you trust him to wait for you, no matter how long it takes. Tell him honestly about the situation with your parents. As long as you make it clear that this is a matter of what your parents say, he isn’t likely to be hurt. Let him know that this is really the end for now, but make sure he knows that you truly do love him.
In your life right now, you’re being forced to take a risk that you can’t avoid. It’s always possible that he will fade out of your life for good, but now’s your time to show him how important he is to you, and hope for the best.
I have two girlfriends. Girlfriend 1, we'll call her Brianna, doesn't know about the second (Evelyn). Brianna lives one state away from me, maybe three hours, and has been with me in an online relationship for going on four/five years now, and she's very committed. I met Evelyn about two years ago, but she's much closer and comes over for a few days each month, and the relationship is very 'open'. Now I'm chasing a boy with a girlfriend. How do I get out of this mess without hurting everyone?
Dear, this does look like a mess indeed. If your first priority is avoiding hurting everyone, your first step needs to be to forget the boy. I’m sure the prospect of starting a new relationship sounds exciting, but you’ll be breaking three hearts in the process, his girlfriend’s among them.
Now between Brianna and Evelyn, who do you care for most? Brianna, with whom you’ve shared words for six years? I’m sure you’re touched by her dedication, but with such distance between the two of you, are you sure she means what she says? With your relationship with Evelyn being open, I assume she doesn’t mind your online relationship. My advice to you would be to slowly fade out of Brianna’s life. Start to ignore her messages; take longer and longer to answer until you just don’t. She will forget you, no matter what she said before. Another alternative would be to tell her you just want to be friends, but this could be really tough for both of you if she’s told you she always wants to be with you.
Its always going to be hard when you have to let someone go in your life, but just remember that this is your life and you have the right to go on without them.
Be as kind as you can to the poor girl if you go through with it. However there’s no need to confuse her with mixed signals; this is going to be hard enough already.
So this kid i like only texted me and like in school he wouldnt talk to me much, and one day i invited him and one of my friends over and he completely ignored me or only said a few things to me in person, and he makes fun of me ahha. but my friend talks to him more. and now we dont even text. i feel like he doesnt like me and likes my friend. im guessing i should move on.
As sad as it is, I think you’re right. He has moved on and I think you should too. Maybe in the beginning he liked you but was too shy to talk to you. Maybe he gave up. But he’s not there for you anymore, and it’s time for you to work on moving on.
I was the one who asked the question about he guy liking me. My friend asked him a few weeks after meeting him if he liked me and he said no, but now its been a few weeks since that. Could his feelings have changed?
Anonymous
It’s possible but I wouldn’t count on it. The only way of seeing if he could have potential to like you is by slowly revealing to him how you feel. If he doesn’t respond after you do all you can, then its time to let it go. If you two were not meant to be, then you will find a way to move on.
